Summer Transition Tips
“Summertime, and the living is easy” - Ella Fitzgerald (or if you are like me, Sublime)
Well the countdown is on and summer is right around the corner! Excitement is in the air, and many of us are already feeling the anticipation of beach days, warm summer nights, and unforgettable memories with friends and family.
With all this excitement, the transition from the school year to summer break can be a stressful shift for families too. As parents, it’s helpful to set clear expectations with kids about what summer break will look like. Setting expectations early on helps avoid misunderstandings later on. Here are a few thoughts and family discussion points to ease the transition:
Schedule
While your summer schedule will naturally look different from the school year, having a general outline for things like bedtimes, mealtimes, and daily activities can be really helpful.
The shift from a structured school routine to the more relaxed pace of summer can sometimes leave kids feeling anxious, stressed, or dysregulated. Consistent routines - even if they are flexible - help kids feel grounded and secure.
Trips
Inform your children of scheduled plans, such as family trips, visitors, or summer camps.
Keeping a family calendar on display is a great way to keep kids informed of upcoming events.
School
I would also discuss if they have any academic expectations. This is more common for older students, who may have summer courses, reading assignments, or other work to complete before the new school year begins.
Discuss and map out a plan early on so these tasks don’t get overlooked in the busyness of summer.
Curfew
Curfew can become a major source of conflict, especially with tweens and teens who may expect to spend extended time at friends’ houses or stay out late. It’s important to set clear boundaries from the start - establishing communication expectations, what time they need to be home, and consequences for breaking rules.
Screentime
With more time back during summer, kids might naturally gravitate towards spending more time on screens.
For ages six through adolescence, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends no more than two hours of screen time per day, not including school content.
Friends
It’s important for kids to stay connected with friends. Encourage playdates, signing up for summer camps together, and other opportunities to maintain friendships.
If your child prefers to socialize online, set some reasonable limits around online social time and encourage more in person hangouts.
Summer Bucket List
Depending on your kid, the inevitable “Mom, I’m bored” might be on the horizon. Creating a summer bucket list at the start of summer can be a great way to plan ahead - and a helpful go-to when boredom strikes.
Plus, it gives your child a sense of ownership over their time and something to look forward to!
Moving
Summer is a common time for families to move - whether it’s a short distance or a big relocation to a new city. Regardless of the distance, moves can bring up a wide range of emotions for kids. Give them some space to process their feelings and encourage open conversations about what this moves mean to them.
You can ease some tension by giving them a sense of control. Maybe letting them decorate their new room, say goodbye to friends in a meaningful way, or visit their favorite restaurant one last time. These small gestures can help your child feel more supported during a time of change.
Enjoy Nature
Take advantage of the warm weather and spend time outdoors. Explore new and creative ways to move your body while embracing the beauty of nature around you.
If you have any questions, please feel encouraged to reach out christina@christinakingfamilytherapy.com.
Yours In Service,
Christina King, LMFT 145704